Wednesday, February 25, 2009

Quest: Assertiveness

Since im still on the quest and havent succeeded i thought i would write about what i have come across in my journey.

Assertiveness is defined by some people as the ability to express one's needs and thoughts confidently without hiding.
In simple terms that means if mister X is assertive
1. mister X feels good about himself
2. mister X feels free to express his feelings, thoughts and desires and knows his right and that makes other people know how to deal with him.

Okay thats a little bit of background.
But my problem is not with this, but with opposite of what i have written.
There are people like miss Z
1. who is unable to (or can not) express anger or frustration for some (weird or not) reasons.
2. has difficulties of saying no (there are many people i assure you)
3. allows others to take advantage of them (who doesnt feel that in way some point of life eh?)
4. has difficulties in expressing affection (not only in gf-bf situations but family, kids..etc)
5. thinks that (she) does not have the right to express their thoughts and feelings. or that what she tells is unimportant.
So this makes peoples like Miss Z life very difficult. Almost unbearable.


References:
  1. http://www.usq.edu.au/studentservices/counselling/issues/assertive.htm accessed 25/02/2009
  2. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Assertiveness accessed 25/02/2009

1 comment:

kaiza shozey said...

yea, met a couple of miss Z's myself. you know, it isnt jes their life that makes it unbearable. hehe. btw, ive updated.